Wake Up, Look Up

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hello everyone thanks for listening to

wake up lookup a podcast where we

connect events happening in real time to

the Gospel of Jesus Christ I'm Zach

wrock and in today's episode we're

asking the question does love needed GPS

this is from The Wall Street Journal

article from this week called the new

relationship ship deal breaker and it is

about j z and how increasingly it is

becoming a deal breaker for Jin Z

couples to not allow each other to track

them uh each other on their phones so if

you're a parent you know this there are

a lot of apps on smartphones these days

that allow you to track where someone is

my family uses one so that any given

moment I can know where all my teenagers

are well Jin Z of course is growing up

in the social media smartphone era and

they are now asking their boyfriend or

girlfriend to be able to track their

location for as you might imagine all

the expected reasons uh it's not just a

thing for jenzy by the way 30% of gen Z

calls this an essential requirement for

being in a relationship with them

meaning they would actually end a

relationship if the person they were

dating wasn't allowing them to track

them on their phone they want to know

that they can trust the person they're

in a relationship with so maybe you are

someone in jiny listening this or you're

an adult in the dating scene navigating

this on your own begs the question how

should we think about this as Christians

uh does love need a GPS should we uh

allow someone we're in a relationship

with to track US should we be tracking

them well as you might imagine this is

one of those tip of the iceberg issues

meaning there's a mountain of ice on

under the water what we have to

acknowledge is that this desire to track

each other is coming from a lowlevel

resting anxiety about whether or not the

person we're in a relationship with can

be trusted and I just want to encourage

you that this is one of the reasons why

if you're a Christian listening to this

you should be dating or in a

relationship with another follower of

Jesus that's because ultimately your

hope isn't in being able to track that

person your hope is that they're

surrendered to Jesus and that the

kingship of Jesus the leadership of

Jesus will lead them to Fidelity and not

to unfaithfulness so what you should be

looking for far more more than where

they are on your phone is does this

person actually love Jesus in other

words have I seen evidence it's a great

question to ask yourself have I seen

evidence that when they want to zigg but

Jesus says to zag they go with him have

I seen them obey Jesus when he disagrees

with them that is the key question

because a person who surrendered to

Jesus in that way is ultimately someone

that you can trust also just remember

that true trust comes from character

from a pattern of behavior Proverbs 3

says that we should lean on the Lord and

not trust our own understanding what

we're looking for is someone who does

this day in and day out if you feel the

need to track the person you're in a

relationship with it might be that you

just haven't been honest enough with

yourself to say hey the pattern of

behavior that this person has exhibited

is not trustworthy and if that's the

real problem you should be talking with

them about that not about whether you

can track them I'm also a little worried

about the spirit of fear or the resting

state of anxiety social media and

smartphones have made us feel as though

we know everything all the time as

though we can know everything all the

time makes us feel as though we can

create a world for ourselves where we

are in control but we're not the fear

that you have of of another person

hurting you is fear that is always going

to be there no amount of tracking is

ever going to C fix that because after

all I don't know if you've ever thought

about this but the person you're dating

can just leave their phone at home if

they need to they can get a second phone

there is no actual technological thing

that will keep you from any worry at all

now having said that here's another

thing that I think that might sound a

little paradoxical accountability can be

a really helpful and wise thing this is

no different than software you install

on your computer to keep you from

looking at pornography uh technological

tools can make sure we get where we want

to get they can help us with the

discipline piece help us in that moment

of vulnerability so I'm totally okay

with a couple of agreeing together that

this is something they both want to do

one isn't forcing it on the other they

agree that this accountability will be

healthy and just keep in mind that if

you're dating this person and it's

getting serious and you're thinking

about marriage this is just one of many

conversations you're going to have about

working out what Paul calls in Ephesians

5 Mutual submission what does trust look

like in our marriage what does

accountability look like how are we

going to be honest with each other how

are we going to hold each other

accountable listen let's make sure we're

having those conversations and not just

talking about which apps we're going to

use or not use hey thanks so much for

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